Motherhood is such a transformative journey, one that often centers entirely around the needs of your little ones. In the beautiful chaos of cuddles, feedings, and endless to-dos, it's easy to feel like the "you" you once knew is fading into the background. But your identity as an individual, with your own passions, and needs, is just as vital. I am always telling myself that “I can not pour from an empty cup”. One day you’re gonna ask yourself, “When did I shower last?” or “Did I eat today?”. I won't lie. I have had those breakdowns where I can’t hold on anymore and have to silently cry in the bathroom because I felt so overwhelmed with doing all these things for everyone in the house I felt like I was no longer “Shayla”, I was just “Mom”. It felt like I no longer had an identity that didn’t involve my kids (As much as I love them, I needed to find myself again!) It's not about partying, or being able to be lazy whenever I want and not having anything to worry about! It's being able to have a thought that's not “When did he eat last?” “Will he have enough milk?”, or the anxiety riddled thoughts like “Is he going to feel like I abandoned him because I have an appointment?” or “Is the person watching him not understanding his cues and getting frustrated with him?” Not only is losing yourself in motherhood feel overwhelming but it's almost a feeling of grief! But don't worry, the old you is still there and she will mix with the new to make the most badass version of yourself!